Moments of Impact

”I have a theory. My theory is about moments - Moments of impact.

My theory is that, these moments of impact, these flashes of high intensity that completely turn our lives upside down actually end up defining who we are. The thing is, each one of us is the sum total of every moment that we’ve ever experienced, with all the people we’ve ever known. It is these moments that become our history, like our own personal greatest hits of memories that we play and replay in our mind, over and over again. A moment of total, physical, mental and every other kind of love.

So that is my theory, that these moments of impact define who we are. A moment of impact. A moment of impact has potential for change, has ripple effects far beyond what we can predict.

Sending some particles crashing together making them closer than before, while sending others off into great ventures, ending where you never thought you’d find them. You see that’s the best thing of moments like these, you can’t, no matter how hard you try, control how they are going to affect you. You just got to let these colliding particles land where they may and wait until the next collision.”  The Vow

If you ever saw the movie - "The Vow" then you would recognize this extract. If you think about this - it all makes sense. We all maintain a variety of interpersonal relationships on a daily basis - so much so that you can classify it as an interpersonal relationship with each and every one we have contact with.

Some for a moment and some for a lifetime. And it is these relationships that define the impact. I for one don't care much for the fleeting kind, I rather invest in the moment that will last - that is where we find ourselves. What we sometimes do not realise is this: my defining moment of impact may not be yours thus creating the social awkwardness that starts to consume one of us. The difference between who you are and who you really want to be is determined in what you are doing about it now. So...in the words already spoken:

"If you stay, stay forever.

If you go, do it today. 

If you change, change for the better.

And if you talk, make sure you mean what you say. "